“To seek truth is to be willing to take action.” - Bruce Lee

Peace, presence, joy, and a calm mind and body is the most important thing we can have to get closer to our Divine Self. How do we get there?

Are you aware of the environment you grew up in? What were you shown about how to treat people that is still with you? Are your family members real about themselves or do they cover most things with a smile? Be patient with yourself as you eliminate patterns you have had for a lifetime. You will understand more and more why they are here in the first place as you start to work on yourself. Allowing yourself to feel what is happening inside in a supported way are the keys to being free of it. 

If your life seems to continue in the same or similar unwanted pattern, then there is work to do. That’s good news. It means something can be done. You don’t have to stay stuck. First, we need to be willing to look at the truth about ourselves and what’s really happening inside us and around us. Sometimes we hold in and stuff down things we have not dealt with because we aren’t aware, or we are afraid. We must become aware before we can change and admit the truth to ourselves. This feels good. Truth starts to set us free, for real. Those feelings and sensations are our gifts and they want us to know the truth, that’s why we have a gut instinct to protect ourselves. If we medicate ourselves, we cannot listen to our divine soul guiding us through these bodies. It’s when we don’t listen, we start to feel worse. And if we stay in denial this makes everything even harder on your body and mind. Our bodies want to be heard, respected, and feel complete and free.

“Trauma is not the event, it’s how you respond.” - PhD. Peter Levine

When we get to finally respond and say and do what we never got to do throughout our lives, we become free from our past. Yes, we can go into our past and change it. It can be that simple and it’s not as scary as it seems. With highly stressful traumatic situations we didn’t have the help or support we needed to take care of ourselves or know how to respond. The body doesn’t know time and it doesn’t forget. It knows now and it still wants to respond in a healthy way to take care of itself that it never got to do. Your symptoms and struggles are connected to your past.

I found with Peter Levine’s work doing this fight flight response and completion, I became free of uncomfortable symptoms, my past, and my triggers. Whatever trauma I went through in life I got to face it and do what I always wanted to do. This felt AMAZING. All the time I didn’t fight back or flee, in other words speak up or walk away, now I could. Sometimes it was with the person face to face, over a phone call, or email, and sometimes it was with my SEP (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, PhD. Peter Levine) in a therapy session. (This is why I became an SEP). Some people we cannot talk to anymore but we still get to do it. All of my responses I got to do to take care of myself, gave me completion and a calm wholeness deep in my nervous system. I found my anger and frustration melted away as I found peace, forgiveness, and ultimately love for all souls. From having my boundaries and saying what I needed to, I changed my past, which has changed my present, and is changing my future. I can feel love for all from this place, knowing I deserve the best now, instead of hanging onto what was. From here we can let go of anyone or anything that doesn’t serve our highest good.

With truth and awareness we can change anything. Finding truth and having awareness is half the battle. The other half I will guide you through. It will be a fun battle.

How to wake up to what feels right to you in your life and what does not? (What does not feel right is causing stress.)

How to take action on what is acceptable for you in your life and what is not acceptable? (What is not acceptable is causing stress.)

Boundaries At Our Best

No matter who it is or how long you’ve known them boundaries must be established so that you can hold the space for what feels right for you. A boundary isn’t just saying something, it is doing what you say. This clears stress and tension immediately. Your gut gives you signals when you know how to listen. Not having boundaries causes stress and traumatic situations. Letting people walk on you is stressful.

Boundaries not only help yourself, they help others.

When you stop enabling others you hold up a mirror where they can see themselves clearly if they are willing. If not, you did your part. You hold love for yourself over taking care of someone else feelings. And you show others an example of being kind to yourself, in turn you can be kind to others. Otherwise it is fake, and appeasing others isn’t kind to anyone. The love attachment is with your soul, not someone else.

Happiness is about serving others, there is no greater joy.

When you clear your stress and find your peace you are truly able to serve others from a joyful loving place. How can you lift up another if you haven’t lifted yourself?